New.

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New year, new you…

That’s what we hear at the start of every year, isn’t it? We hype ourselves up, stay awake until midnight, and try to soak in all the excitement the new year is supposed to bring.

But sometimes I wonder… is it all just a front we put on?
How do you show your excitement, or do you not fall into the rhythm of it at all?

As I sit here typing this, I don’t feel that usual excitement. What I do feel is a deep motivation to make some real changes. I don’t want to carry my bad habits and old cycles into the new year. I want to become a new version of myself, one I don’t slip away from. It’s a big ask, I know, but I’m also an expert in my own patterns. I can see them forming long before they take over, so shouldn’t I be able to change them?

Becoming a better, more direct communicator

I want to speak with confidence, communicate clearly, and stop letting myself get offended so easily. I want to catch my defense mechanisms before they take over.

Example:

I’ve noticed that I speak in a lower tone of voice, almost shrinking myself when I talk to others. I make myself the “little person” who doesn’t matter. And when I’m misunderstood, I jump straight into defense mode, turning into a version of myself I don’t like. A rude, reactive version who feels like she’s fighting for something… when it was just a simple miscommunication.

Being okay with making mistakes

I want to stop striving for perfection and allow myself to learn without spiraling. I get so upset when I “make a mistake” or don’t immediately understand something new.

Example:

This has shown up a lot in my new job. The person I replaced is still in the department, and when she’s away, I feel this intense pressure to suddenly be the expert. I get so in my head about it. Even leaving notes with questions bothers me. I don’t want to be that person at work. I want to trust my learning process and have faith that I’ll understand everything in time.

Voicing my needs

I want to stop expecting people to guess what I need, and stop avoiding the question altogether.

Example:

When someone asks what I need, I default to “I’m fine” or “nothing.” Instead, I want to pause and actually think about it. We all need things. Yet sometimes I convince myself I don’t, because I don’t feel worth the help… or I worry I’ll inconvenience someone, even when they’re directly offering.

These are just three things that come to mind as I write this, but I know there are more. I want this to be my biggest year of growth. Writing these intentions publicly helps me bring them to life, and gives me something to look back on as 2026 unfolds.

If you’d like to share your own goals with me, I’d love to hear them. Comment below, reply to the X post that brought you here, or send me an email.

Let’s be cheesy and say it together: 2026 is going to bee our year, hehe.


~Honey 🍯

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