Lessons.

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Do you believe it’s better to stick with something that makes you a little uncomfortable (even when you know it’s good for you), or to walk away?

I’ve been wrestling with this question over the past few months. There were days I wanted to quit simply because of how uneasy I felt walking into the building.

But here’s what I realized... I was the one making it uncomfortable. I built up dread the day before, spun what ifs on the drive there, and carried that tension into the room. Those were my patterns... not anyone else’s. And the truth is, I can change how I carry myself.

In-person relationships have been tough for me this year. After sitting with the discomfort, I finally took time to process where it was coming from. I noticed a familiar pattern... I dive in full tilt. I commit to everything at once... committees, studies, services, and make it my priority. Then, when it feels overwhelming, I quit it all. I leave abruptly, and the awkwardness lingers.

This time, I chose differently. I stepped back from some commitments but stayed with one. And that has been one of my biggest lessons this year... committing doesn’t mean committing to everything. One piece of the pie is enough.

I’ve seen this same pattern in my Hive journey too.. starting a Discord, newsletter, podcast, weekly space, blog, X account… the struggle to juggle it all was too much. And now, I’m back to posting here from my personal account, when I feel called to write.

Sometimes I imagine people judging me... “Why did she start all that and then walk away? What a joke.” That phrase eats at me. But I’m learning to quiet those head games. I’m still showing up for my IRL commitment, and I’m returning to writing here without the pressure of deadlines. That freedom brings quality over quantity, and joy back into the process.

Can you relate to this? Have you ever felt the tension between diving in too deep and stepping back for balance? I’d love to hear your thoughts in the comments or on the X post that brought you here!


~ Honey 🍯

Comments

  1. AnonymousDecember 7, 2025 at 9:30 AM

    We all get overwhelmed because life is overwhelming. There is no harm in taking a step back to reinforce the choices made and to see if you still want to travel that path. I feel life is about recalibrating along the way.

    You can’t blame yourself for not knowing what you don’t know. The only way to figure out something is to give it a try.

    Life is about learning what works and what doesn’t work for you or for you at this time.

    Going at a slower pace is always a winning ticket in my eyes.

    You got this and you will find your groove and your flow.. Keep doing you! 🌺💜

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    1. Buzz n' BloomDecember 7, 2025 at 1:01 PM

      Awe, thanks so much for your kind comments!! It is so true! Taking things slower is something I am not used to but am working towards always. And the thought of committing to something (for me) means permanency, and when I step back I feel I've failed... I am taking your comments to heart and will put them into practice. Thank you so much!! 🤗

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